How to learn to lose football: fear of failure

How to learn to lose football? The main ambition in football is to mark more goals than the opponent: we all want to win! Suddenly when two teams compete, there will necessarily be one of disappointed (we exclude the draw) just to say it immediately you will lose (as Aimé Jacquet would say) so much that it gets used to it, but is it so easy and above all that it should be removed from this defeat?

How to learn to lose football

What is a failure?

The coach is too often seen as the manager of a defeat, a victory. It is he who has to bring the team to win the game. However, it is also to give him too much importance. Because it can’t only guarantee a victory! A coach can never say with great certainty: we will win!

The coach is there to try to set up a number of conditions, of parameters that are in favor of the victory of the team. A multiple number of things will make the team win or lose:

• Guardian -shaped state
• Concentration and trust of the marker
• Meteorological relationship
• Efficiency of the opponent
• Post outgoing….

You see in two small paragraphs that I have already managed to dismantle the myth of the responsible approach in any time of victory or defeat. What can be transposed to each player of a team.

We still see too often the defeats bring back to the failure of one player or another.

Those I want to make you understand is that going on seeing only the need for success can sometimes cause counterproductive effects. Players (like the coach) can fail and lose confidence because the work is reduced to its result and makes you forget that it is the result of a long learning and experience process.

Learn from bankruptcy

Ok, you lost, it’s sad and annoying for the ranking. The wave of post -trauma reflection is implemented: «And if I had … and if and if» it is too late, it is done, it is acting. Now we have to understand the meaning of this failure.

And above all understand what he led to this failure. Since it is not something short that falls on you is a construction of various elements. And so the victory has the same process. And what do you know? In the victory process you will find failure.

Experienced progress in any learning process. I miss, I like it differently etc … until they find the solution. If in a specific case: I try, I give up and I do not progress well. So, if the defeat brings as the only reaction of frustration and a non -modification of behavior on the ground, it will be useless. If a failure does not lead the player to say to himself: «Ok I lost myself, but if I meet this particular situation I will try to do it. There you won because you will create a peaceful player who will learn from all situations and who he dares.

Anti -failure

Very often you shouldn’t lose, you shouldn’t lose the ball, you shouldn’t take goals.

The psychological consequences are therefore that the player is afraid of making mistakes, of making mistakes, He can therefore see his coach as a successful dictator. Become petrified and no longer tries. It ends up hiding during the games, training, simply restore. But if he is guilty not to try, who is no longer guilty of not leaving the right to be wrong?

He is the coach!

Take a goalkeeper who knows a difficult game, he is angry with his coach and teammates because 3 lost points are too much. Subsequently it can no longer be responsible for this inability to hide, be absent or injure itself. A real injury but triggered by a psychological problem. A malaise linked to pressure.

While if he had emptied this bankruptcy situation having the ambition to improve, starting from his mistake he would have been in a positive process. There he trusted because he forgets fear concentrating on small reassuring elements. It can be compared with a situation of non -training, relive it and therefore correct it:

• Positioning
• Output speed
• Body orientation
• Manual positioning
• Etc.

By giving him the keys or discovering them without pressure, the player will have fun understanding the successful mechanisms, learning football.

Parents must also face this reflection and their vision of bankruptcy. They must change their behavior, especially in young people.

The failure is omni present in football, but very often it is seen as something intolerable and therefore not an area. Yet look at it more ready and calmly you have to see an excellent support for your future success. Football is more particularly in a young and more training team must be a bankruptcy place … a place where we make a mistake where we make mistakes. And above all without pressure because the player will therefore know that he does not matter to make mistakes, however, he must be able to make it and know how to make corrections to change the situation at the next meeting.

MICKAEL JORDAN: «I lost 9000 strokes in my career. I lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I was trusted to take the filming of the victory and I lost myself. I still failed and still in my life. And that’s why I succeeded.» «